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Forgiveness – What Is It Really About?

Article by Karen Erickson

I work with people on a daily basis to help them heal and release emotional issues in hypnotherapy and I find that forgiveness is one of the most misunderstood subjects and most people don’t really understand it. I hear people say to me all the time that this person doesn’t deserve forgiveness for what they did, so they are not going to forgive. Many believe they have forgiven, however, when they talk or remember the situation and they have emotional reactions, such as bitterness, anger, resentment, hurt, numbness, guilt or other negative feelings, this means they haven’t truly forgiven. If you are experiencing anything other than peace or love about a situation, another or thyself, you have not forgiven or released it.

Forgiveness is not about making the other person wrong, judging them, or feeling superior. It is not something you do only if the person says they are sorry and wants your forgiveness and/or is willing to pay restitution. To forgive as defined by the Webster dictionary means “to cease to feel resentment against, to pardon one of an offense without punishment or penalty”. This means that forgiveness is about releasing or freeing oneself of these negative emotions that we are holding on to and projecting towards another or thyself. Forgiveness is an internal process first and what follows are the external actions. Your actions will reflect how your heart feels. One will know if you have released them, released these feelings, because your heart will be peaceful and loving towards them. To say to another “I forgive you” from your mind, from a place of ego and judgment, is to come from a place of superiority..of finding them wrong, in which, no forgiveness really takes place. Only from one’s heart, a place of non-judgment, one can truly forgive or release.

Why should we forgive? We all know that many religions and sacred spiritual texts, like the Bible, say to forgive, however, many do not understand why, what’s the benefit. First we must understand that everything is connected, that what we do to another, we do to ourselves. If we hold resentment and anger towards another, we do this to ourselves. These lower negative emotions are stored in our body, constantly draining us of energy, physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually. When these energies are stored in the body, they create illness in the body or mental health issues. When we don’t forgive, we give the person or situation power over us, becoming the victim of our circumstances, instead of the creator of our destiny. This will forever keep you in a weakened state and keeps you connected to that person or situation. Once you release it, you release the energy of that situation, so you are less likely to draw another situation like that back to you.

So how does one forgive, especially when the person has no remorse and we feel they were wrong? The following are some steps that can help you forgive, otherwise, see a qualified Hypnotherapist that specializes in regression emotional releasing therapy.

– First, we must realize forgiveness or releasing another has nothing to do with whether they have remorse, we just need to have the desire to want to release and forgive.- Be willing to look at the situation and see what can I learn from this, what is this teaching me and how can I turn this into something positive to help others and myself?- Be open to possibility that there is a bigger picture, there is a reason this happened and you don’t have all the facts.- Ask yourself, Why did I draw this situation into my life?… How did I contribute to this situation?… Realize that you helped create this situation in some way.- Put yourself in their shoes, understand their background and see life as much as possible from their perspective. See their hurt, fear, lack of and need of love.- When you feel you are ready to release and forgive, imagine them in front of you, with your hands on your heart, tell them you forgive and release them from the bottom of your heart.

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